Three weeks ago, my wife’s grandma fell and fractured 3 vertebrae. She was hospitalized, had a procedure to cement the vertebrae, transitioned to a Rehab Facility for a couple of weeks, and the family is moving her into Assisted Living facility today. Thankfully, Grandma is wanting to live in Assisted Living as she fears being alone and falling again. Even though we had Lifeline for her, it wasn’t enough for her to feel safe.
To help ease her transition to assisted living housing, I’ve arranged for home health care using Registered Nurses. Physical Therapists and Occupational Therapists to help manage her incision healing, work on endurance/strength, and provide training for ADLs in her new environment. In addition, I have a caregiver on stand-by in case she needs more 1:1 support throughout the day.
As I was thinking about her transition to senior assisted living, I wondered what families do when they don’t have the same educational background (gerontology and social work) as I have or they don’t work in healthcare. So, I found a great article on the National Center for Assisted Living’s website to share. Here is what they say -
Based upon their personal experiences, many residents suggest you see the actual apartment or unit that you will move into and take measurements. Ask the administrator or director what furniture, if any, the residence will provide. Some residences may provide minimal furniture, such as a bed or chair upon request; other residences encourage you to bring whatever furnishings will make you feel comfortable in your new home. Experience indicates that making choices about personal possessions is difficult at the time; however, one resident said, “It’s not as bad as you think . . . Try to remain positive and have family and friends help you.”
Residents suggest that you might want to leave large pieces of furniture at home, since your apartment will probably be smaller than your current home. They also suggest that you bring smaller prized possessions to create that “at-home” feeling in your new assisted living apartment. And, for those possessions that you can’t part with but aren’t sure that you want to bring with you, consider putting those items in a storage unit or asking family to temporarily store the items for you. This way you will have time to determine which items are important to have with you at your new home.
You should start packing well in advance of the actual move. Sort through your clothes and decide what you will need and how much your new closets will hold. Residents advise to be sure to look at available closet and storage space to avoid bringing more than the closets can hold. Avoid bringing too many of one thing such as coats.
Moving Day Helpers
When moving day arrives and you are ready to set up your new home, ask family and friends to help arrange and organize your apartment. Many assisted living residences have staff members who can help move your furniture and other heavy pieces into your new apartment. You will want to find out what assistance the residence offers before you arrive on moving day. Although staff, family members, and friends are there to help you, it is important that you decide how your apartment is arranged. Remember, arranging your apartment to suit your preferences will make your adjustment easier.
Making the Emotional Transition
Moving is hard. It can make anyone feel overwhelmed and stressed. However, these feelings are generally temporary and disappear after you establish your own routine. “Give it time and you will adjust,” said one resident. In talking with other residents, you will find many of them felt the same way. Some residents found comfort in talking with clergy. Others found comfort in talking to a neighbor or close friend.
Residents say the best strategy is to stay busy, introduce yourself to other residents, and participate in the activities. It is normal to have a tendency to stay in your apartment at first. Yet, getting out and meeting other residents as well as participating in activities were repeatedly identified as the quickest ways to become comfortable with your new surroundings.
Everyone is different. Some people embrace the move with open arms, while for others it may not be as easy. Whatever your feelings, current residents say these feelings are normal. Give yourself time to adjust. If you feel you are taking longer to adjust than what you consider normal, then you might benefit from discussing your concerns and feelings with the administrator or director of the residence.
More Advice For New Residents
• Read all the materials about the assisted living residence before you move in.
•Try and meet the administrator or director and staff before moving day.
•Review the paperwork and contract before you move in so that your questions can be answered in advance.
•Pack wisely. Don’t bring everything.
•Obtain a list from the residence of suggested items to bring.
•Obtain a list of residence policies and familiarize yourself with them.
•Label your clothing if the residence is helping you with laundry.
•Read the activity schedule and choose two or three programs to attend early on to meet your neighbors and other residents.
Advice for Friends and Family Members
Current residents advise friends and family members to be involved before, during, and after the move. Your loved one does not want to be seen or treated differently now that they live in an assisted living residence. Remember, your family member or friend hasn’t changed; it’s only their home address that has changed.
Be aware. Family members and close friends often experience the same emotions as a new resident. These emotions are natural and to be expected.
Suggested Do’s For Friends and Relatives
• If requested, help with the sorting, packing, and moving.
•Listen as your loved one talks about what they left behind.
•Be helpful even if you do not agree with the decision to move.
•Recognize that moving to a new home represents a major change.
•Call and visit often during the first few weeks.
•Be positive. A smile, support, patience, and understanding are required.
Suggested Don’ts for Friends and Relatives
•Make all the decisions or take over the sorting, packing, and moving process.
•Focus only on yourselves. This is about the resident moving, not you!
•Criticize the decision to move into assisted living.
•Make light of the transition.
•Immediately talk about selling the resident’s house.
•Make promises that you cannot keep.
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